Marriage Test

Sunday, May 23rd, 2010

Sometimes couples can get off track without even recognizing it. This 20 question marriage test will give you some idea for what areas need to be “tweaked” or talked over with your spouse.

1. My spouse and I have a good idea of what is happening in each other‘s life.
Yes No

2. My spouse and I have a good time together and are generally in a good mood.
Yes No

3. We touch each other with love throughout the day.
Yes No

4. Neither I nor my spouse are often irritable or in a bad mood.
Yes No

5. We confess our shortcomings to each other, ask for and offer forgiveness, and work through disagreements in healthy ways.
Yes No

6. We do not let small issues escalate into bigger ones.
Yes No

7. We are intentional about spending time together and enjoy each other’s company.
Yes No

8. When we disagree, we seek to understand the other person and arrive at a mutual conclusion.
Yes No

9. Neither of us would describe ourselves as feeling lonely.
Yes No

10. My spouse and I both feel respected in this marriage.
Yes No

11. There is a lot more positive than negative in our relationship.
Yes No

12. We do not keep secrets from each other.
Yes No

13. We are friends on facebook, have access to each other’s email and cell phones, but feel no need to check up on each other. Neither one of us has given the other reason to lose trust.
Yes No

14. We would agree that there is a lot to be grateful for in our lives.
Yes No

15. Our relationship is stronger because of the hard times we’ve had.
Yes No

16. We have frequent, good sex where both partners are satisfied.
Yes No

17. We are emotionally available for each other.
Yes No

18. When we talk with our friends about each other, it is only positive, not complaints.
Yes No

19. Generally speaking, we don’t have problems.
Yes No

20. If I had to do it over again, I would choose my spouse for my lifelong partner again and again.
Yes No

21. We pray with and for each other.
Yes No

22. We worship together.
Yes No

23. We serve others together.
Yes No

24. We look for opportunities to help each other grow in their relationship with God.
Yes No

25. We’re best friends.
Yes No

Scoring
If you answered “no” for more than 4 or 5 of these questions, you and your spouse should talk about the state of your marriage and how you might get it in a better spot. It’s probably a good time for some biblical counseling.

If problems don’t get resolved in their early stages, they will generally grow and multiply and biblical counseling will be necessary. A marriage coach will make your good marriage great and your great marriage better.

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