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Coaching
I get the question a lot, “What’s the difference between coaching and counseling?” The easiest way for me to explain this is that coaching is pro-active, counseling is re-active. In coaching, I take you from where you are right now to where you desire to be. In counseling, there’s a sense where you go back and undo in order to get to where you want to be. Counseling looks at obstacles and seeks to overcome them. Coaching looks at obstacles and sees them as opportunities for growth.
Posted in CoachingBy Mike DeGuzman
Marriage by Design
The sad reality is that over half of the people who read this page are either divorced or they will be divorced.
How do the hopes and dreams of a beautiful lifetime together begin to unravel into arguments, financial problems, infidelity, and the pressures of work or busy schedules? Before you know it, checking your e-mail becomes more important than spending time with your spouse.
Posted in Husbands, Leadership, Marriage, WivesBy idmfirm
Biblical Role of Women
When I told one of the elders at my church what I was writing it on… he told me a funny story about his son. One day when his son was in class the teacher said, “today we are going to talk about the roles of women and men” and the little boy and one of his friends blurted out “women dont have roles, they make rolls!”
In today’s quick paced culture it is easy to conform to the changing times without notice. We are a society built on recognition and success, and when these dynamics permeate into our belief system, it can be challenging to identify and evaluate the impact they have on how we live our lives. One of the largest ways these values have influenced us is in our view of the roles of men and women.
Posted in "Young" Theologians, Leadership, WivesBy Haley
I’M SO MAD!!!
You know, there are some people that are angry at everything? Other times anger seems justifiable. But how could Paul say, “Be angry, but do not sin…” how in the world do we do that? Yeah, yeah, I hear ya!
Posted in Leadership, Marriage, Parenting, StudentsBy Mike DeGuzman
Communication and Conflict Resolution
Do you find yourself fighting with your spouse or your kids over everything? Have you ever heard of a “Conference Table” approach to solving problems biblically? I promise that if you’ll take this biblical approach to solving your communication and conflict resolution problems, you’ll begin to experience the freedom and joy of being at peace with all men.
Posted in Children, Dad's Only, Discipline, Friends, Husbands, Leadership, Marriage, Mom's Only, Parenting, Parents, Students, Teenagers, Wives
By Mike DeGuzman
Rebuilding Trust After Adultery
“I’m having an affair.” These four words don’t do justice to the horror and pain you are experiencing. Betrayal takes your emotional well-being on an emotional roller coaster from anger, to hurt, to fear to rage. Then, you just feel numb. Adultery tears you apart. In marriage, two people become one. Adultery tears apart the special intimacy and trust between a husband and wife. You’re probably feeling shame. You may feel weak, exposed, and embarrassed by what your spouse has done. What do you do next?
Posted in Husbands, Marriage, WivesBy Mike DeGuzman
Suicide Warning Signs
How do you recognize suicidal tendencies in kids especially teens (middle and high school age)?
What a great question and one that I do not take lightly. I had a friend of mine in high school that I was very close to that kept telling me, “Mike, one day I’m going to commit suicide.” “Oh, don’t say that, you are not” I said over and over. She told me that for about 6 months and then she left school one day, drove across the street to a church parking lot, put a gun in her mouth and pulled the trigger. I felt so guilty because I knew it. I don’t know how many other people she cried out to but that instant changed my life. I determined that I would work with high school students at some point in my life to make sure this didn’t happen again.
Posted in Parenting, Students, TeenagersBy Mike DeGuzman
True Love
David, Samson, and Solomon all failed in the area of relationships. So, unless you’re more godly than David, stronger than Samson, and wiser than Solomon, there’s a good chance you’re going to fail too!
Posted in Courtship and Dating, DatingBy Mike DeGuzman
Punishment ~vs~ Discipline
Have you ever been so angry with your kids that you just lost it? Yelling, screaming, veins popping out of your neck, muscles tense, etc…
Posted in Children, Dad's Only, Discipline, Mom's Only, TeenagersBy Mike DeGuzman
Honoring my parents
When I speak of being a child, you know you are a child if you have parents who are still living. Does God really expect children to honor their father and mother because it is right? Do you really think that an adult child can honor their father and mother even if they’ve abused them and been bad parents and now have financial need at the end of their life?
Posted in Children, Dad's Only, Mom's Only, Parents, TeenagersBy Mike DeGuzman
